Not Slapped, Per Se
I have a strained relationship with a family member. I had hoped that over time, we would be able to discuss it and find our way back to each other. I wasn’t rushing anything, because I felt that giving her time and space was appropriate. I had hoped that someday she would contact me, interested in re-establishing contact.
Today, she did. Unfortunately, it wasn’t anything like I had hoped.
She chastised me (for something I hadn’t even done wrong which made me really mad!), made demands of me, and told me what she thought of me. Had it just been that, I could have brushed it off. Hurt feelings. I get it.
But, then I read the closing of her letter. It was like a slap in the face. I wanted to retaliate – to offend her as she had offended me. Luckily, I was able to think before I hit the “send” button and deleted what I had written, knowing it wouldn’t help the situation at all.
What did she say, you ask? She said, “God bless you.” Now, to most, that doesn’t seem like a big deal. I get it. But, once you know the situation, it becomes clearer. I do not believe in the Christian God. At all. She knows how I feel about it. She chose that closing specifically to offend me.
I think that’s the part that bothers me the most – the fact that she had chosen the one closing that would offend me the most. Had she told me to eff off, I could have handled that better. That just shows that she’s hurt and angry. She intentionally chose that closing specifically to hurt and offend me.
So, I won’t worry about that relationship anymore. If that’s the way she wants to be, I have no room in my life for someone who is so disrespectful of my beliefs and feelings.
It’s sad, but I can’t change others. I’m only responsible for my life.
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