Anti Anti-Bullying

In researching for another blog, I came across this image:


I can’t tell you how incensed I was!

So, you’re totally fine with your son beating the crap out of my son because it will prepare him for getting the crap beaten out of him as an adult?  Seriously?  You’re okay with your daughter waging war on my daughter so she will be accustomed to mistreatment when she grows up?  Are you kidding me?

I was going to ignore the statistics, but no – let’s look at them, according to

  • Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 percent of high school students have considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have attempted it.
  • Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University
  • A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying

That’s not something to be ignored.  Even if your kid’s bullying victim doesn’t kill himself, he has probably thought about it.  That’s how miserable your kid makes his victim.  Are you okay knowing there’s a young person out there who is so wretchedly unhappy that they would rather die than continue being bullied?  If you’re okay with that, it speaks volumes about you.

(Okay – I know that none of my readers would allow their children to bully.  I’m just venting.  I also know that there are parents out there who are this callous – I know one personally.)

I want to go deeper than that.  Yes, bullying exists both in school and in the workplace.  Does it have to?

Let’s look to the future.  Isn’t that what life is about?  Looking to the future?  Creating a better place for our children to inherit?  That’s why we recycle, why we worry about our footprint, why we create endangered species lists.  We are trying to make this world a better place.

Before The Civil War, slavery was legal.  Before suffragettes fought for their right to vote, only men had that right.  The word “fag” used to be an okay way to refer to a gay man (I just heard it in “Teen Wolf” and I was MORTIFIED!)  Just because “that’s the way it is” doesn’t make it right and it doesn’t mean it shouldn’t or can’t be changed.

How about, instead of defending your mini-me-asshole, you teach him a better way to interact with the world?  Instead of passing on machismo (and intolerance and cruelty), why not take the time to not only learn a better way, but pass it on to the next generation?

Instead of justifying hatred and bullying, take the time to leave the world a little better than you found it.


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